A massive pile up in Wyoming on Sunday, March 1st, involved over 100 vehicles and claimed the lives of three people while thirty more went to the hospital with injuries. As an avid driver, who spent over ten years as a professional truck driver, I’ve always studied accidents like this. It may seem like a strange method, but the acute observer and analytical thinker in me prods me to learn from others’ mistakes. Mistakes happen all the time. We’ve got to observe and learn from them. And I think when it comes to abuse, we can learn from all kinds of scenarios that have little to nothing to do with abuse because there often are overlapping principles at work.
The following video was posted by a truck driver who came upon Sunday’s accident scene. Just a warning that there is strong language and the carnage of the crash can be disturbing to watch.
As an “old school” truck driver, watching these videos makes my blood boil. Being a professional driver comes with incredible responsibility. There was no reason for this pile up to occur. There was light snow, little wind, decent visibility, and the temperature was in the lower twenties. An empty tractor trailer weighs 35,000 lbs and a fully loaded one is 80,000 lbs. It takes a long time to stop on ice, so reduced speed and constant communication between drivers is essential. I’ve personally witnessed hundreds of accidents. I’ve never witnessed a pile up in over a million miles. The main reason, I believe, is that communication between drivers was always decent when I was on the road.
I’ve been the first to come upon bad accidents in the road. The most memorable was when I was rounding a blind curve, fully loaded at 80,000 lbs, only to find a rolled over pick up truck in my lane. Passengers were crawling out of the window. A coworker was behind me, also fully loaded. I instantly reached for the CB microphone and told Kim to switch lanes. Neither of us could stop in time, but we both avoided killing people that day. In the above video, communication is absent. This driver (as well as the other ones involved) should have been hollering back to everyone behind them to back it down! Those three words have saved me multiple times, and I’ve used those same three words to save other people from getting tangled up in accidents.
Instead of warning others over the CB radio, the driver is focused on filming. He even narrates and calls attention to the sound of more trucks smashing into other parked vehicles. My jaw was on the floor in disbelief. Lives would have been saved. Millions of dollars of equipment and freight could have been spared. Some of these drivers’ livelihoods are now gone because other drivers didn’t tell them to back it down.
The lack of communication in the church when warning signs are present also astounds me. The reality is that many innocent people are unnecessarily getting injured by abusers because people fail to communicate quickly and with precise language when we witness risky behavior. We need to learn from these mistakes. We need to improve communication. Below are five reasons why I believe people don’t report suspicious behavior:
#1 The shock of what we are witnessing can be paralyzing
People used to argue that there are two reactions when we sense risk–fight or flight. Now it’s widely recognized that freeze is a very common response. When we become shocked at what we are witnessing, it’s easy to freeze and not know what to do. Good training helps us overcome this. My trainers reminded us that there is never an excuse for not communicating danger to other drivers. I do the same when I train churches. Even if an incident isn’t reportable to the police, there are high risk behaviors that we must communicate to others. Remaining silent is not an option.
If someone in our church is violating physical boundaries, we warn others. It is not cruel or unfair to do so. It’s quite the opposite. It’s completely fair and warnings are warranted when someone is clearly making other people uncomfortable by crossing appropriate boundaries.
#2 The bystander effect is powerful
Surely someone else will speak up! If you find yourself thinking this thought. . . it’s time to speak up. The bystander effect is very powerful. Lots of studies have been done on this. In emergency situations, we are likely to follow the behavior of people around us. If everyone around us fails to take action, we similarly will fail to take action. The best way to break that pattern is to be aware that we are all vulnerable to the bystander effect. We must condition ourselves to be the first to speak up.
#3 Poor training
We often either have a lack of training, or our training is lacking. In other words, even when people are trained to speak up, they may question proper procedures for doing so and end up not reporting at all. A survey of 197 school teachers in the early 2000s revealed that 73% of those surveyed never made a report. Only 11% said there were instances they felt were reportable, but failed to report. Those surveyed said that both pre- and post-service training was inadequate for instructing them how to report, and they cited the following reasons for not reporting: fear of making an inaccurate report, feeling as though child protective services don’t help families, and no apparent signs of abuse.
#4 Reliance on technology
We are becoming more and more reliant on technology. Map apps now have the ability for drivers to report accidents, road blockages, construction zones, and even speed traps. This is becoming a crutch and it will never be able to take the place of old fashioned CB radio communication. Yet drivers depend on their apps to warn them if there is trouble, which is ending in disaster. The same is true of our sex offender registries, back ground checks, etc. I still am blown away at the number of people I speak with who believe that conducting background checks is an adequate way to reveal and communicate who dangerous people are. They are not.
#5 There is no clear chain of command
In the church, especially, our leadership structures often prevent lay people from taking initiative to communicate who risky people are to the church without going through a maze of red tape. When risky behavior is identified, many people (even among leaders) scratch their heads because they don’t know who to report the behavior to. As a friend of mine says, “When seconds count, help is only minutes away.” Or in most cases, it could be months away.
We need better systems in place with clear checklists, protocols, and precise reporting procedures if we are going to stop these massive casualties from occurring within our organizations.
“But if the watchman sees the enemy coming and doesn’t sound the alarm to warn the people, he is responsible for their captivity. They will die in their sins, but I will hold the watchman responsible for their deaths.” –Ezekiel 33:6 NL
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Since you first made reference to the passage in Ezekiel, I have very often thought about it, particularly of false teachers (wolves). I have personally experienced the futility of trying to engage them. I understand the vulnerability of new Christians, but when “older Christians” fall for the lies because of lack of knowledge, it is particularly painful. Seeing Christians spending fifty years in the pews and still not able to recognize the danger is truly puzzling.
Right, and I see more mature Christians just as easily getting roped in by the deceit, in many cases. Wolves are very smart. And patient.
I suspect there is also something to be said for social conditioning – where women are told throughout their lives lots of gaslighting and as a result, women often are plagued with self-doubt, don’t know if they are indeed being “dramatic” or whatever else. Women are constantly told they are crazy and that they don’t know what they are talking about.
Another big thing, I suspect, is that people don’t know what they are seeing if they have not had any experience with such. This is why I wish churches would talk much more about evil. Perhaps it’s not pastors’ responsibility. And indeed, church services are to be about worshipping God. But so many genuinely good Christians don’t know very much about crime, because they shun such things, to the point of ignorance. Perhaps a crime pamphlet could be included in the Sunday service bulletin, for people to go home and read. Parents can then teach a watered-down version to their kids. “Wise as serpents, innocent as doves.” Because I didn’t know about child molesting and grooming tactics and inappropriate behaviors until I started watching your YT videos and reading your blog and listening to your podcasts. Sure, there’s a common knowledge a person gets from the newspaper, that so-and-so was arrested for such-and-such charges, but that’s it. It’s revolting, horrifying knowledge, but it’s stuff we ought to know as good neighbors, good Christians, to possibly be of service and help to someone someday. There’s also a lot of parallels to other predation, such as those who groom, abuse, prey upon and violate women. It’s all good to know.
Love that you added to your blog. It’s always fascinating stuff. I learn so very much. And I really admire your staying and preaching in the same church. I also appreciate you speaking about how hard it is, every single time. God bless you!
These are excellent points! We didn’t know about my father for years because we’d never been trained to identify deception. Most of us felt uneasy at times, but we could never identify what it was that made us feel that way. I think we definitely need more people talking about evil and what specifically it looks like.
Thank you for this insight!
Jim:
In conjunction with Sue Ellen’s comment, is the lack of emphasizing evil to recognizing it lead to hiring one as pastor (the SBC church in Texas who knew of the guys conviction, but still hired him all because he said “I repent”)?
I agree. This is definitely one layer that needs addressed in churches.
Jimmy said the CB radio communication which old school truck-drivers used is far more effective for alerting drivers than the Apps of modern technology are.
What Jimmy said can be applied to many types of danger — road safety, predators in churches, wildfire safety, etc.
I have family members who were in imminent danger from the bushfires in Australia in January. The Apps were not giving them accurate info. Those in imminent danger who were wise and sensible and level headed were connecting with each other by CB radio.
Those who were in imminent danger who trusted the Apps, and who kept searching for and downloading ‘more accurate’ Apps, were more likely to be overwhelmed by emotions of shock/horror/fear.
Fear feeds fear.
High anxiety diminishes the ability to think rationally.
Thank you Jimmy for distilling and applying the wisdom you have gained from your life experiences.
Thank you, Barbara. I’ll probably always remain “old school.” No technology will ever be able to replace old fashioned communication. I think we’ve become way too dependent on technology.
I wonder if there isn’t a certain level of voyeurism involved in most of society nowadays with social media and the ubiquity of camera cell phones.
People love to record and get the views and likes.
Predators also weaponize this and use what they record to harm.
Either way, it’s really changing society.
In this case, instead of thinking to help, jumping on the CB radio, it’s quick, get the cell phone, start recording this! There were plenty of truckers on the scene, who knows if anyone was on the CB radio or not. This guy was not. He may not have had a CB radio?
It bothers me that there is footage of the man in the SUV on the internet, as that vehicle likely contained the 3 fatalities. Would you want to be recorded and put on the internet as you are pinned in a smashed up SUV, unconscious, possibly already dead? There was no close-up, prolonged gore shots, but I wish they’d edited that out. The last thing I’d want as an unconscious victim of a severe car wreck is some guy recording me with his cell phone.
One benefit of this footage is seeing how quickly things can go terribly wrong. None of us are promised tomorrow. Perhaps today is the last day we’ll be able to walk or whatever, as tomorrow it’ll be crunched beyond recognition in some brutal mashing of metal, glass, etc. Whew!
35,000 to 80,000 pounds? That’s a lot of responsibility for those drivers who are especially conscientious, as I’m sure you was, Jimmy!
I remember watching a police officer give a public service announcement and he was sobbing. He said that as he was trying to recover a person from a burning car, groups of people were standing next to him filming it. He was sobbing that people have become so callous that they’d film someone dying rather than help a first responder save a life. There has definitely been a cultural shift with the pocket cameras and need to feel relevant online.