The Speaking Out on Sex Abuse Podcast
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The Devil Inside
When my sister disclosed to me that our father, a former well-respected minister, had sexually abused her as a child, I made the difficult decision to report. I went into ministry because of the example of my father. He was loved, trusted, and adored by all of us. But he held a very dark secret. He had been sexually abusing young victims for decades. We had no idea. He is now serving a life sentence in prison for sex crimes against children, and this book describes the journey from childhood to the moment I discovered the abuse and reported.
My life is now dedicated to researching deception and abuse techniques so I can equip people to see what we all missed. We can intervene and stop abuse before it happens. The Devil Inside will walk you along my journey of discovery, questioning God, and advocacy.
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Can churches recover after abuse?
Can churches recover after abuse? A better question is how do churches recover after abuse? It’s no secret that, under my leadership, our church experienced abuse of the worst kind at the hands of my own father. In 2011 I reported my own father after a disclosure of abuse. Our worst nightmare came true. We …
Abusers do their homework and so should you
Abusers often integrate into churches, where their deceitful nature is underestimated. They are adept at manipulating and selecting easy targets, and have a low recidivism rate but a high tendency to reoffend. Trusting instincts is crucial when suspicions arise. Churches must avoid complacency by researching individuals, especially when child safety is at stake. Resources and training are available for those committed to protecting children.
Do abusers feel remorse when confronted?
Do abusers really feel remorse when confronted? A few years ago I listened as a group of church leaders described what one of their church members did to multiple young children. It was graphic. Really graphic.